1:1 COACHING FOR THE MIDDLE SCHOOL YEARS
Be the calm she comes home to.
You've read the books. Tried gentler methods and firmer limits. Nothing has stuck. That's because what's driving the conflict isn't your parenting style, it's the pattern between you. And it's exactly what we work on, starting with you.
It's time for a change. We'll figure out together if this is the right fit.
27 years as a child & family therapist | LPCC | Registered Play Therapist Supervisor | Certified Theraplay Practitioner
IF THIS SOUNDS FAMILIAR, YOU'RE IN THE RIGHT PLACE
A successful, capable woman sat across from me. The kind who runs teams and solves hard problems all day. She looked at me and said, "I think I'm a terrible mom."
She wasn't. She was a loving mother whose daughter had gone quiet on her, and every attempt to reach her was ending in a closed door. If you've felt that particular ache, the one where you're doing everything and still losing her, keep reading. This is the work I do.
THE REAL REASON THE CONFLICT KEEPS REPEATING
When she gets big, you disappear.
Here's what I've watched happen for 27 years. The moment your daughter gets triggered, you get pulled somewhere else. Backward, into your own adolescence, your own mother, the things you never quite made peace with. Or forward, into the worst version of the future, the one where the two of you never find your way back.
Either way, you've lost your footing. You're reacting from somewhere else. And the mom your daughter actually needs in that moment isn't in the room.
That's not a parenting-style problem. It's not a communication problem. It's a pattern that lives beneath both, and it's exactly what we work on together.
Picture her at thirteen, alone at the lunch table. The eye-rolls at home aren't the whole story. They're the part of her that feels safe enough to fall apart in front of you.
The insight that changes how you see every hard moment
HOW WE WORK TOGETHER
Three months to hearing her without shutting down
You won't have a perfect relationship in twelve weeks. But you will be able to stay present when she pushes, repair after a rupture, and feel like yourself in the hard moments. That changes everything.
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See yourself clearly
We record a session of you and your daughter doing a few simple tasks, so you can finally watch your own patterns from the outside. Most moms have never seen themselves in those moments.
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Start with you
Twelve weekly sessions on what gets activated in you during conflict, and how to stay steady instead. This is where the real shift happens, before your daughter ever joins.
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Bring her in
When you're ready, your daughter joins the sessions. By then you'll know where the friction lives and what your relationship's real strengths are, so the two of you can build from solid ground.
A room of moms who get it.
NOT READY FOR 1:1? START HERE
A small group of moms, four weeks, one calmer house.
My 4-week online group for moms of middle school girls is a lower-commitment way to begin. You'll get brain-based tools for teen anxiety, ways to stay regulated when she isn't, and the relief of other moms who understand exactly what your week looks like.
Small group via Zoom
$150
Full 4-week group
Online
FROM MOMS WHO'VE SAT WHERE YOU ARE
What changes when you stop reacting.
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Alexis helped me see my daughter, and myself, in a completely new way. I stopped bracing for every conversation and started actually listening. Our home feels different now.
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Patricia
Mom & middle school teacher
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As a social worker I thought I knew the tools. Working with Alexis as a mom was different. She gave me a way to stay calm and connected that I use every single day.
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Linda
Mom & social worker
WHY YOU CAN TRUST THIS WORK
27 Years with Families
LPCC
Certified Theraplay Practitioner
Registered Play Therapist Supervisor
University Professor
National Trainer
There's a seat by the fire for you.
Start with a free 45-minute call. We'll talk about what's happening at home, and I'll be honest about whether this is the right fit for where you are right now.
Free. No commitment. And a full refund after our first session if it isn't right.